tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4463692128267108414.comments2015-04-03T18:42:02.173-07:00Held Back By My SpanxHer Highness, The Spanxsterhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16875465628797096003noreply@blogger.comBlogger16125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4463692128267108414.post-52414721001261423902015-04-03T18:42:02.173-07:002015-04-03T18:42:02.173-07:00One year update? Pictures??One year update? Pictures??Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4463692128267108414.post-70293460593767608842014-08-06T21:50:24.171-07:002014-08-06T21:50:24.171-07:00Update? Update? If By Yeshttp://ifbyyes.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4463692128267108414.post-11472274705332299482014-02-12T21:00:16.886-08:002014-02-12T21:00:16.886-08:00Yeah, I left perineum massage to PH. Much more up ...Yeah, I left perineum massage to PH. Much more up his alley than mine. At least, depending on how you want to apply that metaphor. If By Yeshttp://ifbyyes.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4463692128267108414.post-68138388563622286042013-12-11T20:52:39.580-08:002013-12-11T20:52:39.580-08:00Yeah, it definitely sounds like L needs some help ...Yeah, it definitely sounds like L needs some help - Owl just turned three but he has known the alphabet and shapes for over a year. He's even sounding out short words. <br /><br />Six seems old not to be able to do those things, and if I was that far behind my peers, I would be unmotivated too. There's nothing like constantly sucking at something everyone else finds easy to de-motivate a person. I'm guessing it's less inborn laziness so much as learned helplessness/lack of hope, but who knows... amd as you point out, he's not your domain and it's not your business.<br /><br />This child WILL be. If your child needs help, you will get it, and early, and things will be fine. Jessica over at Don't Mind The Mess ( http://theseversons.net/) is a fabulous example of someone who sought out help for her child early, despite people telling her that everything was fine. Sure enough, her child was autistic, but he was diagnosed and in therapy by a year and a half old, and it has really helped. <br /><br />And there's hope for L, too. You may not be able to seek out help for him, but you can do your best to be the kind of step parent who helps and encouraged and builds enthusiasm and confidence. Consider it practice for when you're guiding your own child, just in case he/she needs help, too. If By Yeshttp://ifbyyes.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4463692128267108414.post-52308648012208483212013-10-08T22:27:22.978-07:002013-10-08T22:27:22.978-07:00Breastfeeding pillows are lifesavers and I really ...Breastfeeding pillows are lifesavers and I really wanted a pregnancy pillow last time, but didn't get around to it. Enjoy!If By Yeshttp://ifbyyes.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4463692128267108414.post-37746726568810853662013-10-08T22:26:15.620-07:002013-10-08T22:26:15.620-07:00Thinking of you! Thinking of you! If By Yeshttp://ifbyyes.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4463692128267108414.post-78274688507096306492013-04-12T20:23:49.943-07:002013-04-12T20:23:49.943-07:00I want to follow this plan so badly, but I just do...I want to follow this plan so badly, but I just don't know where you find the time/energy. I wish I liked cleaning. I really do. I like a clean house. Our house is cluttered and a little dirty and it's only gotten worse since Owl was born. I am just so wiped at the end of the day that I'm lucky if I can manage washing the dishes. HELP!!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4463692128267108414.post-11535347725327424152013-04-07T13:38:33.984-07:002013-04-07T13:38:33.984-07:00This was my very first ever dismissal of any sort ...This was my very first ever dismissal of any sort from a job; man, I had no idea how bad it would feel! I can't believe that you were laid off because of your pregnancy Carol! But yes you are right - neither of us were to blame at all. We were just doing our jobs!<br /><br />I guess this post must sound a bit flakey after my last blog in December... Mr Right and I have taken advantage of the past few months to improve our communication skills drastically and resolve a lot of personal issues so that we are healthier in our relationship. I've seen relationships break in the face of added stressors like children; having kids tends to magnify existing issues that were previously easy to ignore. One of the positive aspects of Mr Right already having a child is that we're forced to address and deal with issues before adding stressors like kids and marriage and financial aspects. <br />No pressure is our motto I think lol - when it comes to conception, Mr Right and I both want to just let nature take it's course. I will admit, I'm a worry-wart so I tend to try to anticipate Every future issue and worry about what can go wrong lol. I'm pessimistic that way! Her Highness, The Spanxsterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16875465628797096003noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4463692128267108414.post-46621799553380855742013-04-07T06:58:06.321-07:002013-04-07T06:58:06.321-07:00Ugh, I feel SO MUCH for you. I've been laid of...Ugh, I feel SO MUCH for you. I've been laid off twice now - once by the service dog charity a WEEK after I announced my pregnancy, and the second time by the Evil Vet, because they didn't have enough hours for me but mostly because they found me "lacking" in anesthesia skills.<br /><br />Yeah, well, I won employee of the YEAR at my new job, which goes to show you that some people just suck and it is NOT YOUR FAULT.<br /><br />And yay baby!<br /><br />Don't forget, though, that a baby will significantly change your relationship with Mr Right, so if the pregnancy doesn't happen right away (babies tend to happen when you're NOT expecting them) enjoy the time to be a couple and settle in together. <br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4463692128267108414.post-63550693838930379042012-10-31T08:06:38.386-07:002012-10-31T08:06:38.386-07:00Yes you are definitely right about that Carol...an...Yes you are definitely right about that Carol...and I've been having the BABY NOW instincts for several years now. I'm used to going out and getting what I want so even just knowing that it's out of my hands right now is exceedingly frustrating!Her Highness, The Spanxsterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16875465628797096003noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4463692128267108414.post-682035483297933872012-10-17T16:51:44.801-07:002012-10-17T16:51:44.801-07:00Keep in mind that this kid is your future child...Keep in mind that this kid is your future child's big brother, and that kids often have to learn to share with their siblings. In fact, little kids often enjoy sleeping together - they can protect each other from monsters in the closet.<br /><br />Look at it this way - you can decorate the room for a kid, all the while thinking about how someday, there will be TWO little bodies slumbering in that room... Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4463692128267108414.post-79049535897347000052012-10-17T16:47:20.574-07:002012-10-17T16:47:20.574-07:00It's so hard when those BABY NOW BABY NOW inst...It's so hard when those BABY NOW BABY NOW instincts kick in. I swear, having my baby lifted my depression because it finally relieved that longing.<br /><br />I know it's hard to feel like you "belong" to Mr Right, and that he isn't just going to go back to "his" family. But with time hopefully a feeling of belonging will come, especially when you do actually brave meeting the ex face to face. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4463692128267108414.post-40052621426760254692012-10-12T07:42:17.176-07:002012-10-12T07:42:17.176-07:00Thanks Carol! After I published this post I actual...Thanks Carol! After I published this post I actually sat back and thought, maybe this blog name is still appropriate. It's good to know someone else likes it.<br /><br />I'm glad I'm in my situation as well - I'm sure that one post detailing my frustrations over the last year makes it sound worse than it is. I don't wear rose coloured glasses, but for the most part being with Mr. Right is absolutely wonderful!Her Highness, The Spanxsterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16875465628797096003noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4463692128267108414.post-18549950384585346342012-10-11T09:08:41.047-07:002012-10-11T09:08:41.047-07:00I love the name of this blog!
It's a tough si...I love the name of this blog!<br /><br />It's a tough situation that you're in, but I'm glad you're in it. Ex's are a tough deal, and when there's kids involved, they're in it for life, but I think that you'll eventually find a balance. Congratulations on finding Mr Right!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4463692128267108414.post-64965462887495265272011-01-21T10:43:41.796-08:002011-01-21T10:43:41.796-08:00Er... just re-read that and realized that it looks...Er... just re-read that and realized that it looks like I wasn't attracted to PH. I was! Am! I mean I haven't met anyone NEW who I was attracted to!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4463692128267108414.post-67781935720583280002011-01-21T10:42:34.024-08:002011-01-21T10:42:34.024-08:00I feel so deeply for you.
I was like you. I have ...I feel so deeply for you.<br /><br />I was like you. I have books in my collection that I haven't read since I was ten years old. Want to know why? Because I wanted to keep them so my kids could read them. I always ASSUMED I would be a mother, the same way I always assumed I'd go to university. It was the way I thought all lives automatically go. Get through elementary school. Get through Junior High. Get through High School. Get through university. Get married (having met your true love in university). Have kids. Live happily ever after.<br /><br />Of course it's not that simple. My boyfriend all through university and I ended up breaking up because he couldn't pick his socks up off the floor or turn the tv off. If it weren't for PH, I'd probably still be single because I haven't met a man in years who I was even attracted to. But PH and I became friends in university so I just married my best friend instead. <br /><br />But it could have been different.<br /><br />I hope things work out for you. I know the empty-uterus feeling. I've had it since I was 16 :-p If you want to read a depressing post, find my post "on the ethics of baby making". Sad.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com